Erika Nicole Kendall has written a response to Crunktastic’s Big Girls Need Love, Too: Dating While Fat (And Feminist) (which I linked about the other day) on her own blog. Responding to Crunktastic’s dilemma about weight loss, feminism, receiving affection and sexual attraction, Kendall writes:
Do I think the blogger, nicknamed “Crunktastic,” is right to make this decision? I don’t think it’s my place to determine right and wrong for someone else… because, just as I can judge based on what she’s written, I also have to remember that for every word written, there’s almost always five other words not being written. I think a few things will happen, though: I think, for starters, she’ll be pretty grossed out by how quickly men who have always been present in her life will start to approach her differently; secondly, I think she’ll be annoyed by the new-found “thin-privilege” she may experience depending upon how far down she chooses to rest her weight; and thirdly, I think she’ll be more skeptical of the men she does encounter in wondering if they would like her if she was heavier…and what that says about their character.
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I should be clear, when I’m linking conversations about fatness, attraction, dating etc: I never, ever ever endorse the idea of ‘weight loss’. Google ‘Health At Every Size’ for more on that.